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Gratitude brings more to be grateful about. Lack of gratitude, or complaining‚ brings little to rejoice about. Complainers always find that they have little good in their life, or they do not enjoy what they do have. The universe always gives us what we believe we deserve. Many of us have been raised to look at what we do not have and to feel only lack. We come from a belief in scarcity and then wonder why our lives are so empty. If we believe that, “I don’t have, and I won’t be happy until I do…” then we are putting our lives on hold. What the universe hears is: “I don’t have‚ and I am not happy,” and that is what you get more of.

One Saturday after our excursion to Pizza Hut, the mall, and a movie, I drove my ten–year-old goddaughter Samantha to her family’s new residence. As we turned off the highway onto a dirt road that led to her house, my heart dropped to see that she and her parents were living in an old school bus in a field.

As Samantha showed me around her family’s quarters, I began to feel sad that this little girl whom I love so much was growing up in such a shoddy environment. As my eyes painfully fell upon rusted seams on the metal walls‚ cracked windows, and a leaking roof, I realized that her family had fallen into bare‚ subsistence living. I wanted to rescue her from such a barren plight.

Looking up at me with her big brown eyes, Samantha asked me, “Would you like to see my room?”

“Okay‚” I answered hesitantly.

The child took me by the hand and guided me up a makeshift staircase that led to a small wooden addition that had been superimposed over the roof of the bus. I shuddered to observe that her room was in the same condition as the rest of the place, just barely livable. Looking around, I noticed one fairly attractive element of her abode, a colorful tapestry hanging over the one section of the room that could be called a wall.

“How do you feel about living here?” I asked Samantha, waiting for a glum response.

Instead, to my surprise, her face lit up. “I love my wall!” she giggled.

I was stunned. Samantha was not kidding. She actually enjoyed the place because of this colorful wall. The child found a touch of heaven in the midst of hell, and this is what she chose to focus on. She was happy.

I drove home in a state of awe. This ten-year-old saw her life through the eyes of appreciation, and that made all the difference. I began to consider all the things in my life that I have complained about. I realized that in my preoccupation with what isn’t there‚ I have been missing what is here. While focusing on rusty metal‚ I have overlooked some colorful tapestries. I made Samantha’s statement my meditation: “I love my wall!”

Gratitude is not the result of things that happen to us; it is an attitude we cultivate by practice. The more we are thankful for, the more we will find to be thankful for. I heard of a woman named Sarah who lay in a hospital bed after an accident, deeply depressed, unable to move any part of her body except the little finger on one hand. Then Sarah decided she would make use of what she was missing. She began to bless the one finger that could move, and she developed a system of “yes” and “no” communication with the little finger. Sarah became grateful that she could communicate, and she felt happier. As she blessed the movement, her flexibility increased. Soon Sarah could move her hand‚ then her arm, and eventually her whole body. It all started with the critical shift from complaining to blessing.

Jesus taught, “To him that hath‚ more shall be given; to him that hath not, more shall be taken away.” Jesus was elucidating a supremely important principle. Jesus was teaching the importance of concentrating on what we have or want, rather than on what we lack or do not want.

How often do you take time to notice the wonders of the natural world on a daily basis—the rainbow after a storm‚ the birds frolicking around your bird feeder, or the silvery brilliance of a full moon? Gratitude is slowing down your pace, opening up your senses to the world around you, and feeling the impact such awareness has in how you feel and how you then live the next moment of your life.

Expressing gratitude for the miracles in your world is one of the best ways to make each moment of your life a special one.

When you have gratitude in your heart, you will find a new willingness to give to others so that they, too, might experience the joys that you feel. You will find that you will want to contribute to the needs and wants of others without any expectation of acknowledgment.